Independence is the dream of every kid living under strict parenting. Every time a kid is restricted from having a sleepover with a friend, going on a trip, eating on the bed, choosing friends or eating on their own time, there is a thought that runs through their mind: "Let me grow up, I'll do whatever I wish." To all the dear kids currently living with their parents, I am sure you must be going through the same, and there is no denying that sometimes parents can be stricter than they need to be. But there is no right or wrong, and there is no specific rule book for parenting. They just try to do what they think is best for us, and I guess I miss that.
Being independent is great. You get the freedom to decide things for yourself, earn and spend according to your wishes. But there are a lot more responsibilities that comes with it. Now, speaking of responsibility, it is true that one can enjoy all the luxuries only with their parents' money because once you start earning, it's about your needs, then savings, then loved ones' needs, and if there's anything left after that, maybe something for yourself.
Making decisions for yourself seems easy when you have someone to guide you and catch you if you fall, because they seem to have some magical power to make things right, though only after scolding you, let's not forget that. But when you live alone, you sometimes just have to make decisions and face the consequences. For example, choosing a house for yourself, checking if the neighborhood is safe, dealing with people around you, choosing a house help, paying your bills on time, or worrying about your future. And if you do get great at handling these things, then comes the everyday tasks, like cooking for yourself, waking up every day and deciding what to cook or eat (damn! It's so hard to decide, I wonder how mothers do that), and then actually making time to do that either before your work/study starts or in between.
The biggest part of living by yourself is cleaning the house or room and washroom all by yourself. Here, you cannot expect it to be clean by itself.
Things I don't like doing by myself:
• Dishes
• Head massage
• Cleaning
• Cooking
• Paying bills
• Taking responsibility for my actions
Having listed the above, I sometimes feel like I don't deserve to be living alone, maybe I should just go back home. But these are part of life, and if not today, then tomorrow, one has to take the step.
To all those who have a chance to be back with your family, do it! The best feeling is when you have lived far away and are reunited with your family.
Life is not as simple as we thought growing up. I so badly wanted to go to college, learn big terms, and become a successful person. I was under the assumption that having a plan and a desire to be something was enough for me to reach there. However, I am sure you have realized that it is not the case. To my understanding now, career is important, but the support of family and loved ones cannot be undermined.
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